Bringing out your character's ‘edge' for connection, engagement and sales
Your ‘backstory’ doesn’t help you grow your business directly.
But, it does help lock in some important things.
It gives us your values, motives, character traits… Things that can be ‘woven in’ to marketing in later stages. So it’s important for the founder to do.
One question I ask in the backstory work is “What are some of your pet peeves?”
I’m trying to figure out what pisses off the character.
What annoys them.
One guy said:
“Maybe it’s when I say something in a certain way that it’s not understood in the way that I meant it…”
Hmm. We’ll need more than that.
He wasn’t able to come up with anything tangible.
His ‘edge’ was vague.
And this, my friends, is the topic of today’s article
Revealing your character’s edge in your marketing.
Behind closed doors, among friends, or with family, we all have a pet peeve or an edge. Things irritate us. Or we avoid certain things. Or, we have weaknesses or flaws or obsessions that we work on.
But in the ‘marketing’ game, we often have negaphobia
‘The fear of bringing out anything that could cause negative emotion.’ Problem is, a completely positive (or neutral) character, business story, or marketing campaign isn’t natural.
It doesn’t resonate.
Stan Lee, who was the creator of Spiderman, talked about this in in an interview. And why Peter Parker was such a relatable character.
“He's become the most famous. He's the one who's most like me - nothing ever turns out 100 percent OK; he's got a lot of problems, and he does nothing wrong, and I can relate to that.”
Basically, he was a normal guy.
He was shy. Or not very social. Whatever. And so readers could suddenly relate to him on a whole new level.
Service businesses are ‘character driven businesses’
So if there are two services, and one provider is more relatable or magnetic, they will attract more clients, and work with them for longer.
We’re all looking to work with (and buy from) people that we can relate to. Or people that we respect and trust.
When you bring out your edge, you highlight your goodness as well. And when you work on this in marketing and deliver, it may - I’m not saying it will - but it certainly can help to - amplify your engagement in social media, and sales in emails.
Fear of the Edge
Why do we avoid the edge? Robert McKee talks about how this plays out in marketing, it’s called ‘negaohobia.’The fear of the negative. And it’s prolific in marketing and branding. Everything is so perfect. But that’s not the way that life is.
So in marketing, or with a business character, when there’s no edge, or it’s too perfect. It pushes us away. Marketers get stuck in this trap because they don’t want to be the ones to bring negative emotion to the brand (or personal brand), but they also see that without it, there’s no polarity or engagement.
There’s a house around the corner from me that won’t sell.
On the sign it says: “Perfectly renovated.” And has some new paint.
Now I’m not saying that’s stopping the sale, but nothing is perfect. It reeks of a cover-up job, and something is hidden.
Contrast that to a photo I saw of a T Bone steak.
“Humanely raised, but occasionally verbally abused”.
It’s a bit tongue in cheek. But that’s it, right? The farmer is looking after these cows, one steps on his foot or something, I don’t know, and he starts swearing at the cow. That’s how it really is. So that’s more trustworthy.
A compelling character doesn’t replace quality service
It amplifies it.
Bringing out your ‘edge’ won’t make your results better with clients.
But it makes you more trustworthy, because you are relatable. It’s not a gush of vulnerability. It’s just the removal of the masks that we tend to wear as business people, that helps you attract more clients and work with them for longer.
The three places we can start to bring out your character ‘edge’ include obstacles, pet peeves, and weaknesses or obsessions.
Step 1 - Obstacles the character faces
Imagine you watch an ad on TV. And it opens up with a scene of a happy family. There’s the parents, and the daughter Jane, and the son Billy. And they’re happy as Larry. Everyone is smiling.
It makes you smile.
Then that fades and it opens to the second scene, which is another even happier family. Wow! super happy. Everything is perfect.
That lasts for a few seconds.
You’re like “OK…” this is a bit weird. but whatever.
Third scene comes on.
Somehow. It’s an even happier family. In disgust, you throw your remote control at the TV, or you turn off Youtube or whatever you’re watching, and you never buy from that brand again.
Why? Because without a negative setup, every positive is cancelled out.
Every positive needs a negative setup
Or else it ain’t a positive. If there’s only positive in the lead up to more positive, it all gets cancelled.
So obstacles of some kind are important. And you can just bring that into your world with emails or whatever.
Obstacles like nearly losing a retail store. Or staff issues. Or whatever it is. Some of the biggest businesses I’ve worked with have gone bankrupt, or gotten down to the last ten dollars in their account, before rebuilding.
And those obstacles make great content today.
Step 2 - Pet peeves, or things you’re against
I was speaking to a business owner yesterday who’s building two websites at once. Not just one, but two at the same time, for two different businesses. And so he’s doing all kinds of writing and photos that he’s putting up.
Anyway he’s snowed under with all this work and he said that the thing that really helped him was to use ChatGPT. To write the copy.
And I don’t know if he knows my view on chat GPT or whatever.
But I think he did. So I told him I could never do that, but it was great for him because it was faster.
But Chat GPT is one of my pet peeves.
All these gurus that come onto the scene saying if you don’t do it, you’re screwed, they’re kind of in the pet peeve basket too.
Now a lot of people disagree with me. And you might disagree with me. And that’s OK. But that’s the point about pet peeves, or things that you’re against. People won’t always agree with you, but they’ll like the fact that you stand for something and that you have your feet firmly planted under you.
Flaws is another way to do it
A book I’m reading right now is all about Leonardo da Vinci.
And there were only a couple of works that da Vinci actually finished. And only a couple of portraits. One portrait that he did as an older man is called the Turin portrait. And he drew himself with this setup of three mirrors. And what he did was he didn’t skip over any wrinkle! He drew himself all weathered. And it’s very deep. Every time you reproduce it, you get a different emotion comet through, because it’s so deep.
And the contrast to that is a portrait that a student did. That’s side on. Profile. But because he was the student, he hid all the flaws, and made da Vinci look great.
Longer, straight nose. Thinner eyebrows. Better hairline. Better beard. But in the end the thing is, nobody really wanted that side profile. Everyone wanted the Turin portrait.
So the flaws are something that we want to bring out as well.
That we’re socially awkward. That we don’t trust crowds or whatever.
Not to dumb ourselves down for marketing or social media, but to remove the ‘perfection’ mask, or buffer, that blocks connection.
Step 3 - obsessions or weaknesses of the character
There was an interview with Sylvester Stallone, that you can find. I think it was zurich film festival. A lot of people don’t realise that he’s one of the few who have directed and acted in so many films.
But anyway, he was talking about compelling characters. And he said you have to be careful, if you make this superhero character, people completely switch off. And you get torched for it, as a director.
“Let me make it simple. When the character becomes stronger than the audience, you lose your audience. The character has to have as many problems as the people in the audience, then they can relate. Like here’s a guy. He’s tough, he’s world champion. But he’s scared. He’s still nervous. And I don’t care who you are, when you sit in front of a crowd, you get nervous. It’s that connection.”
“It’s very important to use the ten or fifteen identifiable things that we have in common: pride, ego, jealousy, false pride, fear, insecurity… That kind of thing is what makes the character absolutely relate to the audience. When I don’t do that, it’s a disaster. And I have done that before.”
And you bring that out, by wrapping it into your world or content, so people can identify with you.
We’re subconsciously looking for it, to connect with you.
It’s like the whole interview thing when you go for a job. The HR department runs the job interviews, and the whole point of them is to find the weaknesses or flaws of the candidates, because in the CV’s, nobody puts in their weaknesses. Then they ask in the interview, and the people say “My weakness is that I work to hard” or something. Which of course misses the point completely.
A lot of people talk about authenticity.
And it seems to have morphed into something where you’re supposed to share internal struggles, or find emotional moments to leverage in your life, to create vulnerability.
And maybe that’s it.
But to me, that can be a never-ending trap. And rather than fixate on the word ‘authentic’ (the root of the word is from authentes "one acting on one's own authority," which has little to do with how it’s often used), we can look at the word ‘natural.’
What are some of the natural ‘edges’ of the character?
Rather than being afraid these may repel people, what happens if you relax and let these out?
A lot of times, you’ll see engagement jump, as people finally have something they can relate to, that shows them you’re a real person.
How to add more depth to your character for cut-through content
We can only move fast in our marketing and cut through the noise when we have a clear direction, so we don’t get bogged down in overthinking.
Why is it so hard to settle on a direction?
Why do we get stuck on marketing, and content creation as a coach or creative business?
Is it lack of engagement with the stuff we do put out?
What about if we aren’t clear on how our ‘character’ shows up in the business story, so we’re left flapping around on social media looking for ideas on what to say?
The other day I was talking about content with a coach who works with women.
We opened up Instagram and looked at a bunch of women who are in her ‘space.’ You could count the number of posts before there was either one of those boring Canva tiles with a quote on it, or a shot of them in a bikini or with their top off on a cliff or beach. It’s like, is this still happening? Are we not bored of this same thing yet?
In my experience, compelling marketing and a strong business brand is driven by a bunch of different things.
One common thread is an unfolding story.
And for coaching and creative businesses, this is what’s called ‘Character Driven’ story, or a ‘Character driven business’, which is basically the opposite of a plot driven story.
Do you have a character driven business?
The way I think about this is if you plucked you out of the biz, and put someone else in, would it change the business significantly?
For most people we work with, it would, right? Their business would be totally different without them. A couple of months back I talked to a woman who bought an online coaching business - but the previous business owner was kind of an influencer. So what happened was, he sold them this business, then walked away, but he was the main overarching character.
So when he left the scene it makes this huge gap in the business.
You see this when a lead character leaves a business, or passes away. Occasionally the business can recover, but it’s tricky.
The way most people solve the content or marketing problem, is by downloading some kind of planner. Just the other day I was hit with an ad on social media to download a planner with a bunch of ‘done for you’ content. I couldn’t think of anything more stupid. That has to be the fastest way to eliminate all independent thinking and character building. Or they outsource their marketing to a social media manager. And this puts the creator into what’s called a ‘content first’ mindset. Meaning, if I could just get my content right, then I would see success. Or, “my content just isn’t resonating”.
But when you see engaging content, consider that it’s the output from the character, the business story and their world.
Cut-through ‘content’ has to come from this core of the business.
Come back to your character first, to drive cut-through content.
A while back I was watching a show about how Quintin Tarantino developed the characters for his movies. I think he was talking about Pulp Fiction at the time. In my view, Tarantino creates some of the most compelling characters in film, and it’s our nuanced relationship with his characters alongside what those characters do, that drives so much engagement and creates a cult-like following with his stuff.
Basically what he does is, he writes out twenty or thirty pages of dialogue between the characters in some random situation.
Say, talking about some current events.
Now, he knows he isn’t going to actually use this dialogue for anything in the film.
It’s basically thrown away.
But what it does is lets him get to know his characters.
And from there, he does something wildly effective.
He let’s the characters drive the story.
We’ll simplify how this happens below, and how it relates to your business.
But great marketing, and a great brand, has very little to do with how ‘polished’ the colours are. It has very little to do with having the right Canva branding package. And it even has little to do with what is being ‘said’, but it has a LOT to do with who is saying it, what they stand for, what they want, and what they do.
If we get stuck on content, or if we want to power up the marketing to create a more compelling story, we can always come back to the characters in the business, and world. Where are they going? What do they want to create exactly? And what events are out there on the timeline?
Example:
Let’s say you’re a yoga teacher.
And you’re trying to figure out what you want to do for content or marketing.
Well you’ve got some educational stuff you could do.
You could do the classic yoga pose on the cliff top with the yoga pants on.
Or, you could come back to what you really want, how you want to help people, the future you want to see, and what you are doing about it?
If you want more people to live a less stressed out, balanced life, with more energy, what are you going to do about that?
You could run events? What kind of events? When are they held and why are they different because you are running them?
Now you have a timeline, and you are doing something in a certain way.
This character driven content is less of a stand alone piece of marketing, and more about a ‘sliver’ of interesting information that is documenting how part of the story or work is moving forward. Your content shows how your world is developing.
Questions that can help character-driven content
Let’s look at the Joker from The Dark Knight. I’m aware I’m using film examples here… But understand that your business is a story very much like a film or novel. Sure your offer solves a problem, but it does that through a compelling story, that people want to be a part of.
So when we think of the Joker, we have a very clear, and compelling character.
We know exactly who he is, how he evolves, and how he behaves.
Any ‘content’ from the Joker isn’t just driven by what he says, but that we know what he wants, what he needs, what he stands for, and therefore HOW he does something. This is what makes the Joker the Joker.
EXAMPLE:
In the scene where he’s walking out from the hospital after blowing it up, with a smile on his face, although he is evil, we are immensely satisfied. Why?
Is that the darkness in us resonating with the event?
Maybe. But I don’t think so.
It’s that how he walks, how he executes his plans, and the fact that his wants and needs are being met (for now) bring us closer to the character.
What does your character want, exactly?
When we get stuck in content, we can come back to what your character wants and how they are evolving. Because it’s the character’s desires that drive the story forward. But this has to be specific.
In the Joker’s case, it is to create total chaos in Gotham city, and continue the battle with Batman. This is specific. This isn’t just “I want to commit crimes.” That wouldn’t be compelling or specific for us to resonate with, because any obstacle that pops up would be too easy to overcome, and it would be boring.
In Tony Robbin’s case, it’s about wanting to end poverty and wanting people to be empowered. His desires drive his world forward.
Another example, let’s say you’re a bit of a gun personal trainer, and you love your training:
** You might want to master a particular movement yourself (infinite fodder for story)
** You might want to help a particular demographic of people in your town or online get healthy in a certain way
** You might want to win the battle against some industrial food company that you think is making people unhealthy
** You might want to help people look and feel great so they can meet their dream partner
As you can see, the want is personal, but in a business setting, it’s going to involve creating some kind of change for your clients.
For me, my wants could include:
** Giving small business owners the supreme skills to build their world and their business
** Teaching them the basics of marketing so they can succeed
** Supercharging small business so it can defeat the slow, technocratic, big business giants
** Helping and inspiring others to be strong, creative and successful in their businesses
OK, so now what do I do to satisfy those wants?
** Write “All in” a book that is a guide for coaches and creative business owners
** Run live events both online and offline
** Offer coaching for small business owners through Creator Club
** Write frequent emails, and release podcast episodes with tips to grow a business
And so on…
So one thing you can do, is take some time, and write out what your character wants, being very specific.
What does your character need?
This is much deeper. It’s rooted in our identity, and our values.
The Joker needs chaos and carnage. He needs the battle with Batman, and even in his own words, he would be lost without him.
These are literally what he stands for.
For me, my values are strength, success, integrity… These are the things that I work for each day, and together with my wants drive how I actually do what I do.
So some people try to come up with these values, or what your character finds really important, or ‘needs’ by writing things out.
But the real way to do it, is to watch your behaviour.
We only know that the Joker needs chaos, because he is always doing things that create chaos.
We only know that I value strength, because I train each day. It’s what I do.
So take some time to look at your behaviour, to see your unique set of needs.
It could be to be loved, to have comfort, to be creative, to make progress…
If I want to help people get strong, and I have a need for love and creativity, I’m going to have a very different coaching business than if I want to help people get strong, and have a need for progress and efficiency.
Your wants plus your needs give us how you do something.
How you run an event
How you teach a class
How you exercise.
How you do a podcast
How you buy online
How you create a coaching program
And even how you dress, look, walk and talk.
This is why as business owners, we can learn so much more about our customers by watching their behaviour than we can by listening to what they say that they want.
When you are clear on these, you can exaggerate them in your content.
Each article, podcast, or post you make is a chance to show more of your character, what they are doing, thinking, and working on. This will bring cut-through character and personality to your content, so your audience can build a relationship with you.
And all of this is to say, just like in Tarantino’s films, this creates a big chunk of your own character, and can drive your content forward much easier.
Conclusion
If you’re stuck with your content, or aren’t sure how to stand out… instead of leading with “I have to create content”
Ask the question of
“Who am I, what does my character want, what is happening on my timeline, and what can I share from that?”
Your content will now have:
** Desires that we can resonate with because we have desires ourselves
** Much more story and internal narrative
** Nuances and quirks in how you do things, which create relatability
** Conflict and obstacles that get in the way of you getting what you want, which creates engagement
** Personality comes through as you deal with it all
** Story unfolds through the events on your timeline…
You’ll notice straight away that you start to stand apart from the crowd, and will be on your way to building story driven marketing campaigns and a horde of raving fans.
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